Top 12 Wedding Don'ts

You have been planning for the big day for years (for some, its from the womb), so you must plan accordingly to avoid any potential pitfalls along the way.
You don't want to spend the first month of your wedding, (probably life time)  apologising for errors or mistake made.

Take a look at these all-too-common “ don'ts” and avoid them as you prepare for your big day.

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1. Don't be Superbride/Supergroom.

You're smart, you're focused, you're energetic. But you're still one wo(man).
Superbrides/grooms devote every waking hour to wedding planning, sew their own dress, designed and made their own invitations, baked her own three-tiered cake, decorate their hall,
brushing aside all offers of help. People in this category often battle with a lot of planning undone.
Call in your trusted sidekicks to help you out before you are left scrambling and gasping for breath.
People want to help. So do yourself a huge favor and accept their kind offers.

2. Don't invite more than your budget.

This cant be overemphasised, If you have a low budget, stick with a low wedding, invite people your budget can adequately take care off. you definitely don't want people murmuring about not getting enough to eat and drink or a place to sit.

3. Don't be bossy with your bridesmaids.

In the most traditional sense, your bridesmaids, in particular your maid of honor,
are there to stand up for you as you take your vows, to act as witnesses to this solemn event.
Somewhere along the line, bridesmaids have become, more like maids, and to an extent there's nothing wrong with that.
These are your sisters, cousins, best friends, future in-laws, and there's something sort of sweet about the way they gather around you, wearing finery you picked out, helping you pin up your bustle, holding your flowers. But some brides ask (or worse, demand) far more:
They expect their bridesmaids to shell out for needlessly expensive outfits, to run endless errands, to wear their hair just so, to attend your parties. Don't let this happen. Be sensitive to how you'd feel if the tables were turned. Gifts to the maids are always welcome, of course,
but a little kindness and care go a lot further.

4. Don't make guests cool their heels for hours between ceremony and reception.

Your wedding reception (if not the same venue with the joining) should not be too far from your church/registry, do your best, If you really must wed at, say, your childhood church, confine your search for reception venue to at least 15 minute drive from the wherever the ceremony.

5. Don’t let parents steamroll your invite list. 

Some guest list are more of Mom and Dad’s idea of a good party than the couple’s. Don't be pushed into having the whole good women/Godly Men club, or garden club at the wedding. Brush up on your negotiating skills and start early. Once you have a budget in mind, you can rough out the number of guests it’s feasible to invite. Then ask both sets of parents for invite lists,
in order of preference, so you can cut from the bottom if necessary. Stay in charge!

6. Don't bow to peer pressure.

It’s insidious. You just got back from a friend’s wedding and you’re troubled:
She had a band and a Dj while you booked a DJ. She had her Reception in a 3m hall, she imported her wedding gown, her Aso-ebi is 350k...
Well, stop right there. If you scramble your plans to best hers:
1) You’ll go over budget, and 2) You’ll hate yourself for it.
Worse, you’ll veer off the course you set for your own dream wedding. She made her wedding hers. And you’re making your wedding yours.

7. Don't spend the whole day searching for what is right or wrong.

Some arrangement may not go as planned on the Big day, Don't freak out, remain calm while you trust the best hands (you appointed) to sort them out. 

8. Don’t get so caught up in your wedding.

It’s wonderful, but it’s one day. Focus on your partner, your marriage and the rest of your happy lives. It helps take the pressure off which dress, what flowers and cake flavor. Perspective helps happiness a lot.

9. Don't skimp on wedding-party gifts.

If it's important to thank your guests with a tangible gift to show your appreciation, be fair on the method of sharing the souvenir, don't buy something for 100 guests while you are expecting 200. If you are sharing at all, it must go round. It will make up for your friends who do not have
enough to share. You can also inform friends and family not to select while sharing their gifts, its important you make your guests realise they are all important.

10. Don't forget to feed your wedding vendors.

The last thing you want on your wedding day is a low-energy DJ or an exhausted photographer.
Your vendors are putting on your affair so that you don't have to, so plan on feeding any wedding professionals who will be there with you at the reception.
This includes your photographer, and DJ or band, plus their assistants. Work their meals into your budget. you are responsible for letting your caterer know how many extra meals they need to prepare for your vendors. Just remember, your vendors are going to be working five to eight hours
(or more!) that day and you don't want their energy to flag just as the party gets going.

11. Don't wait a year to send your thank-you notes.

No, you do not have a year to mail your thank-you cards. You should send thank-you notes to everyone who has given you a gift or part of the whole process at any of  the wedding festivities (the engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor's eve and wedding) in a much more timely fashion.
For gifts received during the engagement party and shower, send a thank you as soon as possible, for gifts sent before the wedding date, send a card / text before the wedding; for gifts given on the wedding day itself, mail a thank-you note within one to two weeks and for gifts received after your wedding, send one within two to three weeks.

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