You just got an invite to be the maid of honour and you’re
wondering what to do? Don't worry, we've got your job description, sit back and
have a good read.
The maid/matron of honor is part worker bee, part emotional lifeboat.
Chosen for your energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion qualities, you should also
remember that listening to the bride, making her laugh, and offering emotional
and logistical support are also part of your honor attendant package. Here's
what's expected:
- Lead the bridesmaid troupe. It's the maid/matron of
honor's (MOH) job to direct the other maids through their duties. Make sure
everyone gets their bridesmaid dresses, go to dress fittings, and find the
right jewelry. Also provide them with the necessary information on all
prewedding parties.
- Help shop for dresses (the bride's and the bridesmaids').
And the MOH pays for her own entire wedding outfit (including shoes).
- Offer to help the bride with prewedding tasks, from
addressing invites to choosing the wedding colors.
- Spread the news about where the bride and groom are
getting married (location)
- Help the bride change for her honeymoon and take charge of
her gown after the ceremony. Arrange for storage in a safe place until she
returns.
- Lend an ear. Whether it's about the planning, the
marriage, or the registry patterns, the MOH should assure the bride that she
has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on
the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH keeps listening.
- Host or cohost a bridal shower for the bride.
- Attend all prewedding parties.
- Keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties
and showers (or delegate a bridesmaid to handle this).
- Plan the bachelorette party with the bridesmaids.
- See to it that all bridesmaids get to the rehearsal;
coordinate transportation and lodging, if necessary.
- Make sure that all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup
done, get to the ceremony on time, and have the correct bouquets.
- Hold the groom's ring during the ceremony. Safest place to
put it? On your thumb.
- Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony
begins and just after she arrives at the altar. The MOH might also need to help
her bustle the train for easy dancing at the reception.
- Hold the bride's bouquet while the couple exchanges vows.
- Sign the marriage license as a witness, along with the
best man.
- Stand next to the groom in the receiving line (this is
optional; the bride may decide to have attendants circulate among the guests instead).
- Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent
points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to
restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest
book, etc.
- Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and
keep them in a safe place.
- Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something --
refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct
the wait staff to keep her entree warm.
- Dance with the best man during the formal first-dance
sequence and possibly be announced with him at the beginning of the party. Also
dance with other groomsmen, the groom, and others throughout the musical
entertainment.
- Toast the couple after the best man. (This is optional, but
it is a nice touch.)
- Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will
require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a
trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor.
- Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride,
laughter can be as effective as venting.
This sounds hectic hun?😐
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